Saturday, April 30, 2005

The Student Survival Manual 13

10 self serving reasons to be nice to people

1. Someday your car will break down... when it's 50 degrees below zero in the shade.
2. You'll lose your prized notebook, and you'll need it back very much.
3. You'll not be able to find a building that is lost (or has clearly been moved within the past two weeks).
4. You'll need help on an assignment, finding notes, or borrowing a book, tape, CD, season tickets, Porsche, etc.
5. You'll need a ride somewhere... at a time when your friend can't take you, and your other friend doesn't want to leave the party yet.
6. You'll desperately need to get into a locked building...(which will have your suitcase and three months of clothes before you leave for home for the summer).
7. You'll need help logging onto the Internet from your computer and you barely know how to turn on your computer.
8. You'll need a signature to have a petition approved or a letter of reference for a job.
9. You'll need to get a grade changed or allowed into a class that has been closed for 2 weeks.
10. You'll need somebody to be nice to you on a very bad day.

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The Student Survival Manual 12

10 places to go when you're "stressed out"

1. To the house of a good friend. Talk things over. Have some laughs or non-meaningful conversation. Eat some food. Food can be good for the human body and soul.
2. To another friend's house and do the same or similar activities. This friend may have superior food or provide better laughs than the friend in item 1. Relax -- it isn't that bad -- it really isn't.
3. To the campus counseling center where you can speak with someone who gets paid to listen to your problems and may have just the right words for you at the right time.
4. To your support group. If you don't have a support group, or don't know what one is, see item 3. above.
5. To the zoo... animals are nature's great stress relievers. Observe the monkeys - they rarely seem too stressed.
6. To the running track, pool, bball court, aerobics center, hiking trail, ski hill, pet store, library couch, coffee house, or other place of choice.
7. To the library... find an "escape" book with no words greater than three syllables, and no math harder than "per-cents."
8. To a place in your mind-- in your visual imagination -- to your favorite
beach, or campsite by the lake, or waterfall.
9. To a museum or park bench. Observe the futility of fretting over life's temporary problems.
10. To your clergyman or spiritual advisor. They have seen human stress many times before and they may be willing to listen to you, and give you another perspective on how to deal with the issues causing you the most worry.

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The Student Survival Manual 11

10 tips for finding your way around campus

1. Get a good map of the campus and spend a few hours looking at it some rainy evening when absolutely nothing worthwhile is on TV.
2. Remember when using the map in item 1. above that North is often in the direction of the top of the map.
3. Take a stroll around campus some Sunday morning when things are calm around the place and check out the whole thing.
4. Ask someone who's been there awhile to show you around or act lost and confused and someone might volunteer to show you, but be careful who you allow to "assist" you -- some people's intentions are not always admirable.
5. Borrow a video camcorder and make a walking video tour of your campus -- you might be able to sell it to next year's freshmen, and make enough money to pay for your tuition, or your camcorder batteries.
6. Go power walking every night on campus -- you can get in supreme physical condition in the process.
7. Ride your bike to school and check out people, places, and things while you're riding. You might not learn where anything important is, though, because you will be concentrating your efforts on dodging the people in item 6. above.
8. Become a student volunteer helping a physically challenged student around campus.
9. Go to sporting events, concerts, on-campus plays and theater, lectures, colloquia, film society screenings, etc. All of these events could to be in strange and unusual places on campus.
10. Go to a very small college.

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The Student Survival Manual 10

10 things to know about the class schedule

1. It's a listing of all courses offered -- when, where, and who is teaching what.
2. Sometimes the schedules are even accurate.
3. Check for the possibility of registering for new course sections which may open up at the last minute.
4. When registering, also check for dropped sections. It can be very depressing showing up for a class that doesn't exist. It can also be embarrassing.
5. A new schedule will likely be available several weeks before each term. Read it.
6. Most schools now have their schedule on the computer network and/or web site -- check this out, of course. Also, the online schedule may be more up-to-date than the printed version. Then, again, maybe it won't.
7. Study the schedule well before you have to register. Like many weeks before.
8. Remember to check the final exam schedules which usually are included with the class schedule, and make a note of each final on your calendar.
9. The old printed schedules can always be used to start campfires in an emergency situation if you are lost in the woods in Idaho.
10. They also can be used to read diligently late in the evening as a possible remedy for insomnia.

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The Student Survival Manual 9

10 things to remember about your ID card

1. Don't lose it -- you'll very possibly have to get your picture taken again. Do you really want to go through that aggravation a second time?
2. You might need it to do a lot of important and worthwhile things on and off campus including the following:
3. ... registering for classes. They may ask you for this in case you are trying to be someone who you are not -- why you would do this is anyone's guess.
4. ... paying your library fines.
5. ... getting a transcript or returning those used books at the bookstore.
6. ... checking out a book at the library after you've finished item 4. above.
7. ... getting into a sporting event or concert at reduced rates.
8. ... getting into other establishments that cater to students and who give special discounts on "student night."
9. ... buying your calculator, computer, or new pickup truck at "student" prices.
10. ... actually receiving your diploma (No, I'm not kidding).

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The Student Survival Manual 8

10 fake excuses not to use for missing an exam

1. Your grandfather died suddenly and most unexpectedly.
2. Your friend's grandfather died suddenly and most unexpectedly.
3. Your friend's grandfather almost died suddenly and most unexpectedly, and you -- out of respect for the family, of course -- kept a bedside vigil all night.
4. Your alarm clock lost the time after the massive lightning strikes and power outages that occurred in the middle of the night.
5. Your car broke down on the way to the exam, or -- worse yet -- your friend's car broke down on the way to the exam.
6. You got bumped off your airline flight back from Denver because you are such a very poor student and had to buy the super-discount seat to visit your ailing grandmother.
7. Your bicycle chain snapped at the worst possible time, or:
8. Your brain snapped at the worst possible time.
9. The roads were impassable, after the snowstorm, on the way back from the ski resort. "You tried everything you could to get back in time."
10. You were sitting in jail (even though you did not do the crime they supposedly accused you of).

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The Student Survival Manual 7

10 excellent reasons not to earn poor grades

1. If you continue to earn poor grades, you may be asked to take your educational interests elsewhere, in which case you will likely ....
2. ... lose your scholarship or grant money.
3. ... lose your position on the hockey team.
4. ... lose your on campus "work-study" job.
5. ... lose your DJ spot at the campus radio station.
6. You may have to show your poor grades to someone very important someday in the future such as:
7. … your future employer.
8. … graduate and professional schools.
9. … your future clients, associates, partners, patients, juries, and...
10. … your kids.

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The Student Survival Manual 6

10 ways to more effectively utilize your time

1. Get an academic desk calendar and use it to record due dates for important things like assignments, review sessions, quizzes, exams, and your next dental appointment. Severe toothaches in the middle of the night before a difficult exam can make college survival a difficult process for even the best of students.
2. Create a weekly schedule which allows significant time for homework every day. Doing homework on a daily basis can help you pass your courses. Most experts seem to agree on this point.
3. Take a "time management " course, read a book on it, or find out how on the
4. Buy a watch or a battery powered portable grandfather clock you keep in your pocket. Learn to set it accurately -- to one microsecond per year should be acceptable for most purposes.
5. Unplug your TV and don't watch it, except for the most important shows like Oprah Winfrey and David Letterman, of course.
6. Sell your TV and watch Oprah in the campus commons while enjoying a tasty snack you purchased out of a vending machine for ten times its actual value.
7. After you've sold your TV to the highest bidder, subscribe to a
newspaper (either printed or on-line) to keep abreast of what is happening in the world. Also, read the news and editorials before the comics, sports, and -- most importantly -- your personal horoscope reading for the day.
8. Keep your phone conversations with friends under 6 hours daily.
9. Don't forget to sleep at least 7 to 8 hours or so every night (especially before exams). Shortage of sleep can cause you to do strange and unusual things, like forget who you are, where your car is located, or what college you currently attend.
10. But it is important to try to get up from bed before noon on most weekdays.

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The Student Survival Manual 5

10 tips for improving your writing skills

1. Find the campus writing or "academic skills" center. Talk to the counselors there.
2. Get Strunk and White’s
Elements of Style or another style manual, many of which can be found on on the web.
3. Use a
dictionary, and of course, you'll always use a word processor to write your papers. On your word processor, use the spelling checker. Spelling correctly makes you look smarter. See 10 reasons to use a word processor for writing papers.
4. Become the most excellent friend of an English composition major. Have that person critique your writing and offer suggestions. Buy them lunch -- often.
5. Find an on-line
writing lab on the Web.
Plan your thoughts carefully before you begin your masterpiece. An outline might help.
7. Don't try copying term papers written by someone else off the Internet as you may well get kicked out of school or thrown in jail or something equally unpleasant for the average student. See
10 possible consequences of cheating at school.
8. Learn how to
cite information from other sources so that you aren't accused of plagiarizing which could get you in more trouble than you may be able to deal with, at this stage in your illustrious career. See 10 easy ways to get placed on probation.
9. If you want to use information you found on-line in your paper, check out a
good guide on citing electronic sources such as Columbia University's Guide to Online Style.
10. Do not write like the author of this survival manual.

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The Student Survival Manual 4

10 things to explore in the library besides books

1. Places to study that are quiet and where nobody can find you.
2. Magazines you've never heard of before.
3. Academic journals to review for possible use in a research paper or project.
4. On-line computer databases where you can do even more in-depth research and locate articles which exist about any subject of interest.
5. Audio and video tapes, CD's, and other multimedia learning materials.
6. Computer based instruction tutorials on a variety of subjects.
7. Reference books like "Joe Know-It-All's Absolutely Essential Guide to Graduate Schools."
8. Where the comfortable couches are for those important moments of philosophical reflection and artistic inspiration.
9. Which librarian(s) enjoy their work the most and smile at you when you ask even the most ignorant questions.
10. Where the Internet accessible computers are located.

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10 ways to review and edit your notes

1. Read your notes within two hours or less of taking them. The rate that the human mind forgets things is beyond human belief, and while reading:
2. Try to decipher what you wrote in your notes. This can be difficult, at times, so you many need to ask a friend for help on this task.
3. One technique which has been found to be successful is to attempt to
paraphrase each important point that the instructor made in the lecture. If you have no idea how to do this, talk to the experts at your college's study skills center or read a good resource about this on the Internet.
4. Try to
outline the contents of the lecture, or use another of many approaches described on excellent study-skills pages available on the Web.
5. Make a list of all of the important or key words. Keep that list at the front or back pages of your notebook for each course so you can reference it easily.
6. After reading your notes within a couple hours at most (see item 1. above), write three possible exam questions for each lecture. This may not seem particularly easy, at first, but after the first exam or two, you will start to get proficient at it.
7. Try to answer your the questions you just wrote in item 6. correctly. If you can't do that, perhaps you should write an easier question or study your notes a little bit more before taking off for the gym.
8. Keep a second notebook to keep a summary of each lecture. You may wonder if this is necessary. Do it anyway.
9. Keep an audio tape journal of your progress in each course. Start the recorder when you are reviewing your notes and talk about what you think were the important points in that day's lecture. Later, while driving to school the next morning, or taking your daily
serenity walk through the park, listen to the notes you narrated and you will be amazed at what a beautiful voice you truly have.
10. Take a short-course or seminar in note-taking at your college's academic assistance office or academic skills center. It won't cost you anything but your time, and what more exciting and thrilling way to spend an afternoon than learning the latest techniques in becoming successful?

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The Student Survival Manual 2

10 tips on taking good notes in class

1. As described so eloquently in 10 tips for survival in the classroom, sit as close to the front of the classroom as possible, so you can hear and see -- and be heard and seen.
2. Talk to the people over at the campus academic assistance or "study skills" center for any resources available to you on how to improve your notetaking abilities.
3. Check out one of the many excellent
notetaking and study skills references on the web which can make you so proficient at taking notes that your friends and associates will offer to pay you to take notes for them. This -- of course -- you will regard as total nonsense because you have far better things to do with your life than engage in such unethical practices.
4. If all else fails, try this method: start the notes for each lecture on a new page in your notebook and put the current date on the top of the page. This suggestion is not "
rocket science", of course, but it's helpful to know what was discussed -- and when -- eight weeks down the line, when you are preparing for an exam, and have no memory whatsoever of what you were doing two months previously. Then:
5. During the lecture you will write down the main points discussed on the right -hand page of your notebook while you:
6. Write down the details on the left side, and bring three pens to class with you:
7. Carry a dark black pen to underline the key points in the lecture.
8. Use a green or blue pen (or choose another color; you can use your own imagination here) to underline points you're unclear of, and will need to review in more depth later.
9. Also, bring use a dark red pen to highlight the things your instructor says will definitely be on the exam, you should never forget, and 200 times during the lecture for emphasis.
10. It's also useful to leave lots of white space in your notebook for later editing, and adding your own useful comments such as "what in the name of heaven was he talking about here?"

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The Student Survival Manual 1

10 tips for survival in the classroom

1. Don’t be late, or at least learn some great "why I was late" excuses.
2. Sit near the front.
3. Act interested in what the instructor is saying once in a while. They like that.
4. Get to be friends with the students who seem to know what is going on.
5. Take notes like you do this for a living and will later publish them for reading by millions. See
6. Ask questions. "When does this class get out?" is not an appropriate question, however.
7. Try to figure out what the instructor thinks is important. Often, they are the ones who make up the
exams and assign the grades.
8. Keep a list of all key words in the subject matter.
9. Don’t fall asleep.
10. If you do fall asleep, try not to
snore loudly or obnoxiously.

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1. Speak to people. There is nothing as nice as a cheerful word of greetings.
2. Smile at people. It takes 65 muscles to frown, only 15 to smile.
3. Call people by name. The sweetest music to anyone's ear is the sound of his own name.
4. Be friendly and helpful. If you could have friends, be friendly.
5. Be cordial. Speak and act as if everything you do were a genuine pleasure.
6. Be genuinely interested in people. You can like everybody only if you like.
7. Be generous with praise, cautious with criticism.
8. Be considerate with the feelings of others, it will be appreciated.
9. Be thoughtful of the opinion of others. There are three sides to a controversy - yours, the other fellow's and the right one.
10. Be alert to give service. What count most in life is what we do to others.


Six most Important Words: "I Admit I Made A Mistake."Five Most Important Words: "You Did A Good Job." Four Most Important Words: "What Is Your Opinion." Three Most Important Words: "If You Please." Two Most Important Words: 'Thank You. One Most Important Word: "We." Least Important Word: "I".


1. Maintain or enhance self esteem (be specific and be sincere)
2. Listen and respond with empathy (Respond to feelings and content)
3. Ask for help in solving the problem (seek and develop ideas, provide support without removing responsibility)


(1) Personal - My relation with one's self,
(2) Interpersonal - My relationship and interaction with others.
(3) Managerial - My responsibility to get a job done with others.
(4) Organizational - My need to organize people (to recruit, train, reward, built teams, solve problem, create strategy and system).


(1) They are continually learning.
(2) They are service oriented.
(3) They radiate positive energy.
(4) They believe in other people.
(5) They live balance life.
(6) They see life as an adventure.
(7) They are synergetic.
(8) They exercise self renewal.


(1) Be proactive - To see right response on a right time.
(2) Begin with the end in mind.
(3) Put first thing first - One thing at the time.
(4) Think win/win - Always think of what is good for thy self.
(5) Seek to understand, then to be understood
(6) Synergies - Do not manipulate things, solicit information.
(7) Sharpen the saw - Self renewal by means of reading, studying etc.,


(1) Refrain from saying the unkind or negative thing.
(2) Exercise patience with others.
(3) Distinguish between the person and the behavior or performance.
(4) Perform anonymous service.
(5) Choose the proactive response.
(6) Keep the promises you make to others.
(7) Focus on the circle of influence.
(8) Involve your people in meaningful project.
(9) Assume the best of others.
(10) If offended take the initiative.
(11) Admit your mistake, apologize and ask for forgiveness.
(12) Go one on one.
(13) Avoid fight or flight, talk through differences.
(14) Delegate responsibility effectively.
(15) Live with the law of love.


An effective leader is a prerequisite to an effective organization. Leadership is a quality that defines who a person is and a skill that projects what he/she can do. It is a lifelong challenge. It is both a journey and a destination.

A leader must be ethical. His/her leadership must be principle centered as characterized by love of God, selfless and noble servitude, moral integrity in personal and public dealings, competence and discipline. A principle-centered life-style enhances personal and interpersonal effectiveness which is needed for a leader to perform his/her duty with professionalism through the dedication and practice of excellence.

An Effective Leader is:

1. Fair, just and sincere. Objective in dealing with people, promotes equal opportunity for everybody and is sincere in dealing with his/her constituency.
2. Flexible rather than rigid. "A bad leader reacts to change, a good leader responds." Flexibility means the readiness to respond and to adapt to changes that may occur.
3. Visionary and results-oriented creates a vision and has the capability to attain the best result-to-effort, outcome-to-task and output-to-input ratios.
4. Strong commitment to the ideals of the organization. Uphold and protect the principle that the group stand for.
5. Honest and responsible. Sacrifice personal agenda for the common good.
6. Motivates and unites. Promotes cooperation, volunteerism and teamwork among members.
7. Transparent and accountable. Discloses all transactions and activities of the organization and is answerable to the organization.
8. Creative. Resourceful and innovative in managing the organization and not bounded by traditional means, exploring other possibilities in pursuit of the organization's objective.

Patterns Of Leadership Behavior

The experienced leader uses many complex and subtle means to exercise his influence and stimulate those he leads to creative and productive efforts. The scope of leadership behavior is complex, ranging from highly leader-centered to highly group-centered.

1. TELLING. The leader identifies a problem, considers alternative solutions, chooses one of them, and then tell his followers what they are to do. He may or may not consider what he believes the group members will think or feel about the decision, but they clearly do not participate directly in the decision-making. Coercion may or may not be used or implied.

2. SELLING. The Leader, as before, makes the decision without consulting his group. However, instead of simply announcing his decisions, he tries to persuade the group members to accept it. He points out how he has considered organization goals and the interest of the group members and he states how the members will benefit from carrying out the decision.

3. TESTING. The leader identifies a problem and proposes a tentative solution. Before finalizing it, however, he gets the reaction of those who will implement it. He says, in effect, "I'd like your frank reactions to this proposal, and I will make then the final decision."

4. CONSULTATIVE. The leader here gives the group members a chance to influence the decision from the beginning. He presents a problem and the relevant background information, then ask the members for their ideas on how to solve it. In effect, the group is invited to increase the number of alternative actions to be considered. The leader then selects the solution he regard is the most promising.

5. JOINING. The leader here participated in the discussion as "just another member"--and agree in advance to carry out whatever the decision the group makes. The only limits placed on the group are those given to the leader by his superiors.

When you are the recognized leader of a group, you have certain prerogatives and powers. This is true whether you are the president of a corporation, the supervisor of a department, or the chair of a voluntary committee. How you use the power will affect both the productivity of the group and the freedom of the subordinates or group members. As you, the leader, use less of your authority and power, the group members gain greater freedom in making decisions; as you use more of your power, the group's freedom decreases.